You want a normal relationship where it doesn't have to be such hard work

   It’s a very human wish, and I can help you make that wish come true.

 When you work with me you will learn

1. How to take the guess work out of relationships so you can act with more confidence.

2. How to read your partner accurately so you feel closer and more secure.

3. How to get your partner to tune into you so you aren’t permanently frustrated at having to wonder what to do next.

4. How to put words to your confusing  feelings so that you don’t feel so ashamed.

5.  How to manage anger, resentment, disappointment, and bitterness so that these feelings don’t block the love and tenderness that is available to you.

6. How to tell the difference between your stuff and your partner’s stuff so you don’t burden yourself with unnecessary guilt and responsibility.

7. How to recognize when you need to protect yourself versus when you need to be more open. You will be able to keep your emotions on an even keel, rather than feeling on top of the world one minute and a waste of space the next minute.

8. How to tell whether you are over reacting or sticking up for yourself so that you can stop beating yourself up and feel good in your own skin.

9. How to ask your partner questions so that you build trust rather than suspicion.

10. How to recognize signs of loyalty, reliability and love in your partner so that you aren’t torturing yourself with worry about being taken for a ride and getting burned again.

Take my relationship quiz and find out whether your relationship style works for you.

But I have already tried everything!

You’ve read the books and articles, followed the lessons on the CD’s, and attended relationship workshops.  You've done the positive affirmations and the meditations.

You are frustrated and despairing that despite all the time, money and energy you have spent  nothing has helped you find and keep the relationship you long for. 

                                                    
Maybe you use alcohol, pills, drugs or sex to get rid of those awful feelings that won't go away.

These short term measures don’t last. You feel defeated. The vicious cycle of anger  and disappointment controls your life.

 

No matter how disappointed and bitter you are, there is an ache that just won’t go away. 

You are dying to be wanted, respected, valued and important to a partner. 

Learning how to do relationships right is most effective when you  practice and get feedback from a trained and skilled professional who will be honest, help you see your blind spots,  show you what you may be thinking and doing that gets in your way, and help you understand the costs and consequences of how you create and behave in relationships.

Experiences Of Working Wtih Dr. Raymond

Self-employed business woman's successful experience with Dr. Raymond

"My emotions used to feel like a tangled ball of yarn. Working with Dr. Raymond has helped me unravel them and see why I got so hurt and angry with family members. Now I have time to think about how to react. I feel less manipulated and I am less angry as a result.I enjoy my relationships so much more than I ever thought possible."

Thirty-five year old Rory hated the idea of therapy. He wanted to take care of things himself. He was frustrated and skeptical about working with me. Here is his experience

	"Before working with Dr. Raymond I used to be a monster lashing out with a bull whip. I have learned about my emotions - what I’m feeling and why I feel it. There is less chaos in my head. I don’t feel like a stranger in my own skin any more. When I get angry and resentful I don’t hold it in, charge it up and discharge my rage with my bull whip. The bull whip is now a dish towel."
	"Life is so much better because I get a better response from people."
	Forty year old Jenny was constantly angry that her marriage wasn’t working the way she wanted.  She had trouble sleeping and was exhausted trying to figure out what her husband wanted. Here is  her experience after working with me on anger management.
	" I used to put up a brick wall so that other people couldn't get near me. I didn't want to show my anger, hurt or sadness. After working with Dr. Raymond I found the wall turned into a transparent gel. It still protected me but I could see what was outside and decide whether it was okay to let in in or out. I have discovered that without really trying I am letting people in and it feels okay.  They are actually nicer than I thought. I realize I was keeping a lot of good stuff out just to make sure nothing scary got in."
	Use Your Anger Productively Why waste your angry energy? Use it as a motivating carrot, propelling you to use the energy to make more satisfying relationships. Listen to Dr. Raymond's interview on Voice of America on Transforming Hurtful Anger into Healthy Anger.